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Couples Therapy in Toms River

Common Co-Parenting Challenges

Coparents have many obstacles to overcome. If you need help managing your coparenting relationship, our Toms River therapists can help.

Learn to Work Together

There are many different types of coparenting arrangements. New Jersey calls shared joint custody 50-50 custody, and although this is the goal for many couples, it’s not always possible. Whatever your coparenting arrangement is, it can be hard to find the communication, boundaries, and schedule that work for both of you. Talking with your ex is hard enough; trying to raise a child with your ex can feel impossible.

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Types of Coparenting

There are three types of coparenting relationships that most parents fall into. Cooperative coparenting is the best for the child.

Parenting Together

During cooperative coparenting, parents communicate well and often, respect one another, and work together to make decisions that benefit the child. They talk about big decisions, uphold rules across households, and communicate updates about their child. This approach provides stability and emotional security for the child and is the best type.

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Parenting Separately

Although not as healthy for the child, parallel coparenting is a good option for parents who cannot communicate without conflict. During parallel coparenting, parents have little interaction and manage their parenting separately. They avoid conflict by keeping communication limited and maintaining clear boundaries. While it works, it lacks teamwork. It is a good option for parents who are unable to work together without conflict.

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Parenting Clashes

This type of coparenting should be avoided. Parents frequently argue, criticize, or undermine each other, often in front of the child. The constant tension and inconsistency can cause stress and confusion for the child, impacting their emotional well-being. This type of coparenting is not recommended and can have a negative impact on a child's future well-being.

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Co-Parenting Therapists in Toms River

Learn to work together for the good of your child (and your mental health) with the help of one of our co-parenting therapists.

Andrew Blancotherapist

Andrew Blanco

LCSW

Andrew has been a therapist for nearly two decades, specializing in family counseling and individual counseling across all ages. After graduating from New York University in 2008, he began his clini...

Adolescents 13-17 Adults 18-64 Adults 65+ Children 6-12 Couples Family
Gina Coupetherapist

Gina Coupe

LCSW

Gina is a licensed clinical social worker with an MSW from Columbia University School of Social Work. Her practice fosters the idea that all individuals have the ability to heal the self through res...

Adults 18-64 Adults 65+ Couples Family
Meredith Wymertherapist

Meredith Wymer

Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner

Meredith Wymer is a board-certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner providing medication management across the lifespan. In addition to her current work in the outpatient mental health se...

Adolescents 13-17 Adults 18-64 Adults 65+ Children 6-12
Aimee Grosstherapist

Aimee Gross

LCSW

You don’t have to face life’s challenges alone. Aimee is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 20 years of experience helping adults find calm, clarity, and confidence through times of stre...

Adults 18-64
Coleen Markeytherapist

Coleen Markey

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Coleen is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 30 years of experience helping adults navigate life's challenges, transitions, and opportunities for growth. She believes that every person ...

Adults 18-64 Adults 65+
Dawn Fifththerapist

Dawn Fifth

LPC

Let’s be honest: life can be overwhelming. Therapy offers more than just coping skills—it’s a space for clarity, connection, and real change. You don’t have to navigate this alone. Life is of...

Adults 18-64 Adults 65+ Family
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Common Coparenting Conflicts

Issues a Toms River couple's therapist can help you and your coparent work on include:
  • Communication breakdowns 
  • Disagreements about parenting styles
  • Inconsistent rules between households
  • Trust issues 
  • Boundary problems
  • Scheduling conflicts 
  • Financial disagreements related to the child
  • Supporting children
  • Managing unresolved resentment
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Developed by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman, this approach helps co-parents improve communication by reducing criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling while building respect and emotional regulation. For co-parents, it’s especially useful in learning structured conflict management, repairing conversations after blowups, and creating a more business-like, child-focused partnership grounded in mutual goals rather than past resentment.

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EFT helps co-parents understand the emotional patterns driving their conflict—such as fear, rejection, or feeling unsupported. By identifying underlying attachment needs instead of staying stuck in surface arguments, co-parents can shift from reactive cycles to more secure, responsive interactions, making it easier to collaborate and reduce hostility for the sake of their children.

 

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Imago Therapy teaches structured dialogue techniques that help former partners truly listen and validate each other’s perspectives. For co-parents, this reduces power struggles and defensiveness by slowing conversations down, increasing empathy, and helping each parent feel heard—even when they disagree—creating a more cooperative parenting dynamic.

 

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CBT helps co-parents identify and change unhelpful thought patterns that fuel conflict, such as “They’re doing this on purpose” or “I can’t trust them at all.” By challenging distorted thinking and building healthier behavioral responses, co-parents can reduce reactivity, improve problem-solving, and approach disagreements with more clarity and flexibility.

 

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Putting Your Child First

You want to do what’s best for your child, but you’re feeling lost on how you can make a coparenting relationship work with your ex-partner. We understand. Coparenting can be exhausting, mentally, emotionally, and physically. While there will always be challenges, there are ways to make parenting with your ex-partner easier, healthier, and more sustainable. Talk with a Toms River coparenting therapist today.
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